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The Greatest Love Of All

I’m not sure if many people know what this means. To truly love yourself. Alright, some of you men like to bake or like flowers. I like meaningful songs and music that speaks to me. In honor of breast cancer awareness month and what is happening in our country and world, I thought I would write about what this song means to me, “Greatest Love Of All.”

You can be free from feeling guilt, shame, self-doubt and fear! If you want to know how, contact me! I believe this is the most powerful song ever written. The message is clear. If you live in self-love, it is the “Greatest Love of All.” If you are not sure about this concept; to be frank, you’re Emotional IQ is low. It starts with having this awareness and developing your Emotional IQ. Here is a very good article to help you understand Emotional IQ: https://hbr.org/2014/12/signs-that-you-lack-emotional-intelligence. I can also help you raise your Emotional IQ.

When you are there (self-love), you are free from shame and fear. People who are not living in shame and fear live where we think, feel, and behave in a state of presence. We respond to what is around us and not to any previous “programming.” Living in self-love allows you to have the capacity for intimacy. When in our self-love (not fear!) we are able to see people as they are, rather than what we project onto them. We ask for information rather than stay scared and rather than make assumptions. We are able to take the best from the past and using it appropriately in the present. If the majority of the population lived out of self-love, I feel the world would be a different place. Self-love conquers all!

If you are a parent:

Yes, parenting is the most difficult job in the world but with some awareness, self-love is the most powerful gift/principle we can teach and model to our kids. It begins with YOU though! I am not talking about the “Self-Esteem” movement here (filling your child’s mind with so much praise they lack responsibility and have a huge ego). Modeling self-love and building their Emotional IQ will make them far more successful than anything!

“Greatest Love of All” was written by Michael Masser & the late Linda Creed, who wrote the song during her struggle with breast cancer. The words describe her feelings about coping with great challenges that one must face in life, being strong during those challenges whether you succeed or fail, and passing that strength on to children to carry with them into their adult lives.

The song was originally recorded in 1977 by George Benson for the Muhammad Ali biopic “The Greatest.” Whitney Houston recorded the song for her 1985 self-titled debut album.

I believe the children are our future

Teach them well and let them lead the way

Show them all the beauty they possess inside

Give them a sense of pride to make it easier

Let the children’s laughter remind us how we used to be

Everybody’s searching for a hero

People need someone to look up to

I never found anyone who fulfilled my needs

A lonely place to be

And so I learned to depend on me

I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone’s shadows

If I fail, if I succeed

At least I’ll live as I believe

No matter what they take from me

They can’t take away my dignity

Because the greatest love of all

Is happening to me

I found the greatest love of all

Inside of me

The greatest love of all

Is easy to achieve

Learning to love yourself

It is the greatest love of all

I believe the children are our future

Teach them well and let them lead the way

Show them all the beauty they possess inside

Give them a sense of pride to make it easier

Let the children’s laughter remind us how we used to be

And if, by chance, that special place

That you’ve been dreaming of

Leads you to a lonely place

Find your strength in love

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IYzlVDlE72w

 

Anxiety Affects Our Whole Being, But It Doesn’t Have To!

Time flies!  I have been busy working on other projects related to my passion of helping those suffering from anxiety. Anxiety can be so debilitating it can definitely affect our whole being. I specialize in anxiety because I have been through it and understand how debilitating it can be on every level. I nicknamed my website and coined the phrase “Just Be Mentally Free” for a reason. “Just Be” to me means living in the present, seizing the moment (Carpe Diem). “Mentally Free” means having a mind that is free from anything that can keep us from being “Just Be.” Hence, “Just Be Mentally Free.” If we can achieve this, to me, we are living in the moment, out of pure love, joy, our mind and body are one, we are in total peace. This is my goal for all of my clients especially those suffering from anxiety.

For those suffering from anxiety it’s nearly impossible to “Just Be” in the present. It takes a real conscious effort. The tragedy here is that TIME flies by when we cannot enjoy the moment, the right here, right now. When we are constantly thinking ahead, or dwelling on the past we lose time, the present time. You cannot get time back! I personally feel that time expands and slows down when we can let go of everything that distracts us. I am in this place and can get anyone here too!

As I stated earlier, I specialize in anxiety and I am on a mission to help those suffering from anxiety. So, please join me on April 16th, at 8:30pm for a live webinar about Anxiety and how you or someone you love can overcome this condition. You can visit my website http://www.justbementallyfree.com and sign up at “Get Anxiety Webinar Access Here”  tab or simply click here to sign up and get free access.

If you are not suffering from anxiety please forward this to anyone you know who is. It will change their life!

Let Go Of The Things Out Of Your Control!

A common characteristic of someone suffering from anxiety is the need to be “in control.” If you are suffering from anxiety, someone has probably told you, “Let go of things out of your control.” What exactly does this mean and why is it difficult to do this? What is it that someone suffering from anxiety is trying to “control?”

To sum it up, pretty much everything, i.e. their feelings, their relationships, others’ reactions, their environment and the list goes on. This is an exhausting way to live and a major reason anxiety is so debilitating. For those suffering from anxiety, the idea that the only thing we can control is our self is difficult to understand. What is really controlling them is fear. Fear has such stranglehold that it controls every aspect of their life. As a result, fear is the force behind the issue of control.

A simple traditional technique (Cognitive Restructuring) to help someone suffering from anxiety is to use self-dialogue. It starts with asking themselves a simple question. “Is this within my control?” Most of the time, the answer is no. The next step is to consciously make a statement to themselves saying, “When the time comes I will deal with the______.” The last step is to say, “At this very moment. I am choosing to let go of the this _______ because there is nothing I can do about it.” With practice, over time, it should be easier to manage the obsessive thinking about being “in control” of everything and let go. The goal is to be in the present moment. This technique takes time and discipline. In order for this technique to work, the individual must commit to taking the time to process their thoughts.

However, there is one caveat. This traditional technique may be difficult because underlying fears have taken over. In order to operate without fear, some work has to be done. I believe there is a root cause of fear and once these root causes are discovered, they can be resolved. The underlying root cause is toxic and causes inner turmoil. The result is feeling peaceful inside. So, with resolution, it’s easier to be in the present and to “let go of the things that are out of your control.”

My goal is for everyone to “Just Be Mentally Free” and live a life of peace that you deserve. “Just Be” means living in the present, seizing the moment (Carpe Diem). “Mentally Free” means having a mind that is free from anything that can keep us from being “Just Be.” Hence, “Just Be Mentally Free.” If we can achieve this, we are living in the moment out of pure love and joy. Our mind and body are one. We are in total peace. When we’re not mentally free, we perform below our true potential and fear keeps us from where we can or want to be.

 

 

 

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You Can Be Anxiety And Panic Attack Free!

If you are reading this you’re probably suffering from anxiety or know someone who is. I am here to tell you that you can overcome this condition. I have been counseling people for 15 years with severe anxiety and panic attacks. I will take you through my paradigm that I developed and has been successful in helping thousands of patients that I have been blessed to help over the last 15 years. This paradigm will get you results plain and simple.

There are a lot of great therapists out there that work with those who have anxiety and panic attacks but don’t understand what it’s like to experience life with this condition. They may give you some traditional tools such as breathing techniques and talk to you about your past week. This may help some, but most people make very little progress.

I want you to graduate you from therapy, not to keep you in therapy for months or years. I specialize in anxiety and panic disorder because I personally know and understand what it is like to be paralyzed by this condition. I am proof that you can overcome anxiety and live a life of freedom and peace. My goal is to help everyone with this condition so they can live life one day at a time and enjoy life to the fullest. I want to work with anyone who wants to take control of their life and free themselves from the emotional abyss as a result of being plagued with anxiety and panic attacks. Yes, there is hope and you can overcome this condition and live a life of freedom and peace. Within 3-6 sessions you will feel in control of the anxiety and be free from panic attacks.

I am making this very affordable and accessible because I want to help you or your loved one. Most people with anxiety and panic disorder will not leave their home to attend a therapy session. I am eliminating two giant roadblocks. A session with me is less than most people’s copay and all sessions are online using SKYPE. SKYPE is free, secure and safe. (Skype is a telecommunications application software that specializes in providing video chat and voice calls from computers, tablets and mobile devices via the Internet to other devices or telephones/smartphones-Wikipedia). You will be in the comfort of your own home. You will not have to worry about transportation, fighting traffic or sitting in a waiting room. SKYPE sessions are real time, just like face to face in a counseling office. I haven’t experienced any limitations when using SKYPE. SKYPE sessions are not to enable your anxiety but provide you with the ability to get help for your anxiety so you can live a life of freedom and be in control of your life. You deserve to live a life of peace.

Distance is no barrier with this program. I help people all over the world. Contact me to set up free consult or schedule today!